That is a good point. Aurora fighters are generally 250-500 ton, 10 times more mass then the real counterparts.
In reality the "mass" value of the ship is misleading. The ships are of some specific size given by their TCS (target cross section) which is then translated into a mass of 50 tonnes per point of TCS for a game convention. The TCS though is a measure of volume (well specifically of cross section) not mass. How heavy an aurora ship is in reality is very hard to say, but they are probably considerably more massive then their 50 tonne per TCS point indicates. Water is 1 tonne the cubic meter and metals are inevitably more dense then that.
It all really depends on what cross section the TCS indicates. But 50 tonnes of water is 50 m3 and that is essentially a 3.7 m on a side cube...nearly 10 m2 target cross section, if you consider it made of solid aluminum it would be only 18.5 m3 and that is a cube 2.6 m on the side or 8 m2 cross section. In reality the TCS will vary with the component in question. One way to look at the large size of comerical ships is to just consider they are mostly empty space where as a warship is mostly "not empty space" but is composed of high density components (reactors, power distribution systems, electronics, cooling systems, armour, ordinance, massive launch systems, optical or particle beamlines with shielding, etc). The warship may mass considerably more than the comerical ship but it will be physically significantly smaller. Even more so for things like FACs where the crew space may be very minimal and the FAC has a very high effective density, so it could be reasonably enough not that large physically.
In Aurora a fighter is size 4-10, what that means in terms of mass is anyones guess. The 50 tonnes is just a number tossed out as a convention you can't use it to compare to a real world object. To do that you need to know the average density of an Aurora vessel. And since people argue that duranium isn't a metal I wish you luck on coming up with a number that would be agreed on. And even worse the TCS is most likely an "effective average target cross section."
I hope this makes sense.